Dealing with a stressful Divorce.
If you are going through a separation right now and are back and forth with the divorce attorneys and family lawyers then you might be feeling a little stretched and stressed. It’s important to make sure that you give yourself some time to rejuvenate and get refreshed during times of crisis like this. It doesn’t really matter who initiated the divorce or if you are in agreement with it or not, the fact is that it can be all consuming and stressful no matter how it started. Granted, if you do not want to get a divorce, this can make things worse but talking to your divorce attorney should be able to help you in that area. Here are a few other ways that you can help yourself.
Go For a Night on the Town.
Just a simple night out with some friends where you can take your mind off of everything is all you need. Just get dressed up, go to dinner, go dancing and most importantly, don’t talk about the divorce. For just that night, pretend that you are not going through the most stressful situation that you have experienced until now. It might be a good idea to try and make that a weekly event, if you can afford it. It doesn’t have to be expensive, even just going for a wander around town is good. The idea is just to get out of the house and have some fun that doesn’t remind you of or include your former spouse.
Talk to a Counselor.
If you really feel like you need to talk some things out in order to overcome, you might want to set up an appointment with a counselor or a therapist. It’s a great way to alleviate some pent up feelings. Don’t be afraid to let your emotions show when you are in the appointment. The therapist is actually someone that can help. They have probably talked with many people that are going through the same thing and will be able to give you some pointers on what to do. Ask about support groups that deal with divorce. It might be good for you to be able to meet people who are in the same boat as you.
Surround Yourself With Loved Ones.
One of the main things that you need when going through this is the love of your family. Divorce attorneys will tell you that a civilized divorce happens when the two parties have support and love from their respective friends and families. Don’t isolate yourself and shut people out. If someone wants to be there for you, let them. You need all the healthy relationships that you can get. This is especially true if you were in an abusive relationship, be it emotionally or physically. If you were, chances are that you shut out a lot of people that were trying to get through to you. Now is the time to reignite those relationships by apologizing to those people. You’ll be amazed at the wonders it does for your friendships.
Purge Your Life.
There are probably plenty of things in your house, car, work and everywhere you go that remind you of your former spouse. Get rid of all of it. Return what you can do them and anything they don’t want, give away, donate it or sell it. Call over one or two close friends and have a purging day. They can help you go through everything, hold you if you get emotional and celebrate with you when it’s all over. It’s also good to have someone with you in case you get sentimental and start wanting to keep things. They’ll be able to help you get rid of the unhealthy attachments in your life.
Get Involved in a Physical Activity.
Ask any divorce attorney, they’ll tell you that divorcees gain a new lease on life when they start working out or becoming physically active. There is a scientific reason behind that. When you exercise, your body releases endorphin which are known as ‘happy hormones.’ They will literally lift your spirits and put you in a better mood.